Ask For Help

Ask For Help

Do you have a desire to declutter your home, organize your kitchen and pantry, or purge your closet but feel stuck on how or where to begin? Or do you feel too embarrassed to ask anyone for help because you feel you will be judged because things are out of order or feel that you should be able to figure it out?

If you answered “yes” to either of these questions know that you are not alone.

Feelings of overwhelm, shame and guilt can stop us in our tracks when it comes to tackling projects that feel out of our control. Feelings of pride and responsibility can also get in our way, especially when we feel we should know what to do next.

I remember one time when my daughter was young, and my husband was working a job out of town for almost a year. We hired a house cleaning company to help us with cleaning since he only was able to come home on weekends and we did not want to spend our brief time together on the weekends filled with chores. So, before the company representative came to assess our house and offer us a quote, I cleaned the entire house until it was spotless because I did not want the rep thinking we were messy or dirty.

Insert facepalm.

Yes… I was afraid of being judged and I felt immense shame because things were not perfect before she arrived. What I learned in that moment, though, was the woman held no judgment and the time I spent cleaning and preparing for her visit, could have been better spent on other projects or better yet, with my daughter.

That experience is one that remains close to me because I was afraid to ask for help. I was afraid what others would think because I needed to ask for help. I was afraid that others would not see me as perfect or able to “do it all.”

Insert another facepalm.

I learned in this moment to ask for what I needed. The moment I did, it felt like a million pounds were lifted off me. In the end, I only wished I had asked for help sooner. The result of doing so, allowed me to be more present with my daughter during the week, and as a family with my husband, during the weekends.

I share all this to highlight the importance of not only asking for help, but to possibly see the beauty in recognizing the different gifts and talents we all bring to the world. You certainly wouldn’t find me repairing a plumbing or electrical issue, so why did I struggle with asking for help in cleaning my home? Thankfully, on that day I learned that there are professionals available and willing to help and would do so without holding judgement.

That was the moment I knew I could take a breath and focus on what was most important during that period of time. I also learned in that moment that holding zero judgment would be a core value for the work I do with my clients, as do many other professionals as well.

If you are finding yourself stuck, or unsure about what next step to take in organizing your home, help is available but it begins with the action of asking for help to move past the feelings of overwhelm, shame or guilt.

I would love to hear from you about your experience in reaching out and asking for help with household projects. Has it been easy to ask for help? Do you feel pressured to manage it all on your own but struggle taking action? Or is there something else that gets in your way when it comes to managing household projects and chores? This information would be helpful for informing future blog posts.

Your coach,

Begin. Just Begin.

Begin. Just Begin.

When was the last time you set a goal or committed to pursuing the dream you have been sitting on?

If you are struggling to remember when, then it is time to shift your focus back to YOU.

So often we are pulled into a million directions due to the many hats we wear. We often pour our energy first into those around us leaving us empty to take action on what matters most – pursuing our own goals and dreams.

The truth of the matter is no one else is going to make time for us. No one else is going to pour energy into us. Only we can make time for ourselves and when we first pour into ourselves, we have more energy to give to others who need our support.

As we get older, it’s harder to take action. I’ve been there. I used to think my story was written. That the job I had would be what I always would do. That I was too old to start a new hobby. That I would always be heavy and overweight because the older you got the harder it would be to lose weight. That the goals and dreams of those around me were more important than my own.

Well, you know what. I was wrong! Very wrong! What I learned was, I was afraid. I was afraid of failing. I was afraid of what people would think. I was afraid of it being hard.

So instead, I began. I began to dream about what I wanted. As I dreamt, I created a list of things that I wanted to pursue. As I created the list, I started to envision a timeline for when I wanted these things to happen. Once I envisioned a timeline, I took action. Once I took action, fear dissipated, and confidence grew.

I knew change wouldn’t happen overnight, so I focused on the one day in front of me. As I began to take action, my confidence grew, and my fear lessened. In no time, momentum was gaining and results were starting to happen.

I share all this to let you know growth and change is possible – at any age. It just takes beginning.

If you are sitting on a goal or a dream waiting for the perfect time to start, I am here to tell you that there will never be one. We will always be busy, there will always be something that needs our attention, and it will always feel scary to try something new. Once you know that all to be true, goals and dreams will be achieved. If you don’t believe me – give it a try. Begin. Just begin.

I would love to hear from you. What goal are you holding yourself back from starting? What’s getting in your way? And, if you would like to receive a FREE goal setting tool, click the button below.

Stay tuned for the next post on Casting Your Vision.

Your coach,

Hello and Welcome!

It is so good to have you here and I’m excited to share more about the purpose and intentions of this blog. But, first, a little about me. 

I am Erin, a certified life coach with a passion for organizing. With a Master’s degree and 22-years in non-profit leadership, I decided in the Fall of 2020 to lean into my calling to support busy women to create the calm, peaceful, and purposeful life and home they have always wanted. Thus, I founded and launched a life coaching and organizing business called Curate: Your Life. Your Home. 

The word curate has been one that I have always been drawn to. Like the curator who strategically selects that most magnificent artwork for a museum exhibit, I believe we should approach how we manage our time, our lives and our homes with similar respect and appreciation.

When we do, we more carefully and intentionally choose how we spend our time and decide what to bring inside.

Peaceful and purposeful can be defined by each of us differently and that is what lights me on fire. For some this could be letting go of the things that feel suffocating but for others this can be living in organized chaos. We all thrive differently and there is not one perfect solution for each and every one of us.

When we curate, we more carefully and intentionally choose how we spend our time and decide what to bring into our lives.

I love hearing about each person’s unique goals and desired results. By blending life coaching strategies with common organizing techniques, it allows for an individualized plan to be created. Whether it is to have everything in its place, a functional system to create calm and order in the home or gaining time back in your day to have guilt-free ‘me time’ – I strive to support busy women in achieving their individual goals and dreams.

While my passion is working 1:1 with women to come up with unique solutions, I have found there are some challenges that many struggle with that often have similar solutions and outcomes. That is why I have started this blog. And, while it is designed to serve the working woman who is bogged down by juggling multiple roles throughout any given day, I welcome all who face these challenges (men included) to enjoy the information and solutions that will be presented in the posts ahead.  

Whether it is struggling to gain clarity on a particular goal to tackle, finding 30-minutes of uninterrupted time to work in daily exercise, or how to develop a system to organize or declutter your home, I’ll offer simple and practical solutions for getting started and for building momentum to maintain the calm and order that has long been desired. 

Now that you know a little more about me, I would love to hear what topics are of interest to you. What comes to mind for you when you think about curating your life and home? Feel free to email to me directly at erin@curateyourlifehome.com. Look forward to hearing from you. Until next time, be well!

Your coach,

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