Do you have a desire to declutter your home, organize your kitchen and pantry, or purge your closet but feel stuck on how or where to begin? Or do you feel too embarrassed to ask anyone for help because you feel you will be judged because things are out of order or feel that you should be able to figure it out?

If you answered “yes” to either of these questions know that you are not alone.

Feelings of overwhelm, shame and guilt can stop us in our tracks when it comes to tackling projects that feel out of our control. Feelings of pride and responsibility can also get in our way, especially when we feel we should know what to do next.

I remember one time when my daughter was young, and my husband was working a job out of town for almost a year. We hired a house cleaning company to help us with cleaning since he only was able to come home on weekends and we did not want to spend our brief time together on the weekends filled with chores. So, before the company representative came to assess our house and offer us a quote, I cleaned the entire house until it was spotless because I did not want the rep thinking we were messy or dirty.

Insert facepalm.

Yes… I was afraid of being judged and I felt immense shame because things were not perfect before she arrived. What I learned in that moment, though, was the woman held no judgment and the time I spent cleaning and preparing for her visit, could have been better spent on other projects or better yet, with my daughter.

That experience is one that remains close to me because I was afraid to ask for help. I was afraid what others would think because I needed to ask for help. I was afraid that others would not see me as perfect or able to “do it all.”

Insert another facepalm.

I learned in this moment to ask for what I needed. The moment I did, it felt like a million pounds were lifted off me. In the end, I only wished I had asked for help sooner. The result of doing so, allowed me to be more present with my daughter during the week, and as a family with my husband, during the weekends.

I share all this to highlight the importance of not only asking for help, but to possibly see the beauty in recognizing the different gifts and talents we all bring to the world. You certainly wouldn’t find me repairing a plumbing or electrical issue, so why did I struggle with asking for help in cleaning my home? Thankfully, on that day I learned that there are professionals available and willing to help and would do so without holding judgement.

That was the moment I knew I could take a breath and focus on what was most important during that period of time. I also learned in that moment that holding zero judgment would be a core value for the work I do with my clients, as do many other professionals as well.

If you are finding yourself stuck, or unsure about what next step to take in organizing your home, help is available but it begins with the action of asking for help to move past the feelings of overwhelm, shame or guilt.

I would love to hear from you about your experience in reaching out and asking for help with household projects. Has it been easy to ask for help? Do you feel pressured to manage it all on your own but struggle taking action? Or is there something else that gets in your way when it comes to managing household projects and chores? This information would be helpful for informing future blog posts.

Your coach,